I've been reading this amazing book called Parenting Your Internationally Adopted Child by Patty Cogen. I've read a lot adoption books in the last 6 years. This one is chock full of great insight and practical tools. So much so, that I am taking notes as I go, so I can remember and apply this stuff.
Therapeutic parenting is the best way to parent. Period. It is the narrow gate that allows kids from hard places to recover and heal in a family setting. But it is an awesome way to parent your regular, typical kids, because it focuses on relationship and deeply understanding your child. That's good for all kids.
Here on the blog, I will be reviewing my notes and thinking out loud. You're invited to follow along on my journey. I will only be covering some of the things that really strike me in the book. You should get the book and read it yourself. Really.
Patty Cogen begins by defining proactive parenting. Simply put, it means that the parent should primarily be the initiator in the relationship, rather than the responder.
As it relates to Cupcake, I get high marks.
With the big kids...
When they were younger, I initiated the relationship. But as the kids got more independent, as Cupcake's needs overshadowed all other needs, and as I battled physical and emotional exhaustion, I stopped (or slowed down) making the effort to just love on my big kids. I don't like that.
It's time for a change.
What do you do to proactively parent your teenagers?
Blessings to you,
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