Sunday, December 16, 2012

Woot! Woot!

Hallelujah!  Blogger is miraculously working again!  I could not get used to W*rdpress.

Hopefully, I will get back into the swing of things.

My father-in-law had a rough go of it, but he is home now.  He lost a lot of his mental faculties, but has maintained the sweetness of his personality.  We/they still have a long, rough road ahead.

Anyway, we are all still hanging in there.  It's been a long, stressful season, but God is faithful to carry us through the hardship.  Cupcake handled it all pretty well, considering all the loss she's experienced.  We've all had some nuclear meltdowns, and hers have been fairly typical - which is encouraging in it's own weird way.  :-)

I should have been blogging all summer, so I will probably try to do some picture dumps with minimal explanation in the next few weeks, plus a few deeper posts.

It's good to see you all again.  :-)

Blessings to you,
Mamita

Saturday, June 16, 2012

Moving

I am moving my blog to Wordpress, due to technical difficulties. The new blog can be found at www.lifewithmamita.wordpress.com Blessings to you, Mamita

Saturday, May 12, 2012

Lost ... and Found

Last night, after school, Cupcake dropped her backpack and ran to the neighbor's house, skippping off with a "Bye Mom!" as is her usual custom on beautiful days.  Most nights, I ring the dinner bell or call her name and she comes running at dinnertime.

Last night was different.

Let me set up the story.  We live in suburbia.  We have common ground behind us that is shared by the whole neighborhood.  It's like a big open field that all the houses back up to.  On our block, there are two girls who play regularly with Cupcake.  She can run across the common ground to get to their houses.  They spend their free time running back and forth between the three homes and playing in the field.   

Mom A called at 5:30 and asked me to send her daughter home.  I said, "I think they're at B's house." 

They weren't.

Mom A stopped in again with her car a few minutes later, asking if I was sure they weren't here.  We checked all over the house and back yard.  Then we started hollering in the common ground, driving around the block, and calling other mom's in the near vicinity.  By this time, we're all very concerned, and several neighbors/siblings are on the look-out.  We expand our search to all the friends' homes in the near neighborhoods, driving the streets, checking the schoolyard, knocking on friend's doors.

Nothing.

I bowed my head and prayed one of those eloquent prayers, full of pompous language.  It was something like this:  "God, help us find the girls.  I need you."

I went to the last house I could think of.  No one was home.

I drove through their subdivision one more time.

My phone rang.

It was Mom B, wanting to know if I found them yet. 

"No."

"Well, I've called the police.  Please come back to my house so we can give them the information."

In that instant, it hit me that my baby was seriously missing.  Our girls were truly in danger.

"Okay." I responded

At that moment, while I was still on the phone, just before I turned the corner to head back home, I spotted a mop of black hair bouncing across the street in the distance at the top of the hill.

I know that hair...and that bounce!

"OH MY GOSH!  THERE THEY ARE!  I SEE THEM!"

So, I picked up the girls and brought them home.  They were so glad to see me and I was certainly glad to see them!  It was a joyous and tearful reunion all around.  There were also some stern words about never doing this again.

Once things calmed down, the story from the girls' perspective was this:  They had been playing in the common ground and decided to go on an adventure to the upper common ground (which is one block up the hill, still in our neighborhood.)  In the winter, on occasion, they go to the upper common ground with older siblings to sled.  From there, they continued to walk and talk and play.  They climbed through some bushes and came out at the top of the hill in a neighborhood that looks just like ours.  They walked and talked a little while more, then decided to turn around and go home. 

But nothing looked familiar. 

They went down the hill and ended at the highway.  They went up the hill and found themselves in the neighborhood with big houses.  They turned around and wandered through houses and yards until I saw them.  I estimate they walked 2-3 miles based on the landmarks Cupcake noted, though they were never further than 10 blocks from home. 

There were three things the girls did right.  Teach your kids to do these things.

1.  They stuck together, even when they disagreed about which way to go.
2.  They never crossed a busy thoroughfare.
3.  Once they realized they were lost, they stopped and prayed.  :-)

So thankful for a happy ending.

Blessings to you,
Mamita

Thursday, May 10, 2012

Cherished

I marrried a great guy. 

He's mine.

You can't have him.

This year is our 25th wedding anniversary (in June). 

Last October, my engagement ring broke.  The ring actually broke.  The band was worn so thin that it just snapped in two one day.  So, being the procrastinator that I am, I just put it up and added it to my to-do list.  Well, I finally got a recommendation of a good jeweler and took it in for repair.

While I was there, I asked about having my diamond put in a new setting.  (We had talked about this.)  She showed me a beautiful ring with 4 smaller diamonds on the side.  (We have four kids.)  It was breath-taking. 

Long story short.  My awesome husband bought me a new ring for our anniversary!  It's gorgeous and significant and it tells the story of our lives together. 



And it makes me feel...Cherished.  Loved.  Valuable.  Honored.  Pretty.

And that makes me feel thankful.

I'm still madly in love with Steve and I'm so glad God blessed me with him.  I appreciate so much about him.  I will gladly spend the rest of my life by his side. 

Blessings to you,
Mamita

Thursday, April 5, 2012

Be Still, My Heart!!!

Last night was a little rocky.  Not a lot of fun was had at our house after church, before bedtime. 

Cupcake went to bed with some unresolved feelings.

So did I. 

But, she woke up this morning to a new day (and a much rosier outlook.)  (Me, too.)

After school, she bounced in the door and handed me this:


Dear Mom I love
you so much your
the best thing that
ever happen to me
I love you a  alot
Mom.  Love (Cupcake)


Wow!  Is that sweet or what?

Plus, she drew a thin mom, with thick hair!  ;-)

It reminded me of this post from my friend, Lisa (One Thankful Mom).  I took Lisa's advice to heart, though I don't say things like that often. Still, I never thought I'd hear these words coming from my little girl.

Blessings to you,
Mamita

Sunday, April 1, 2012

October Baby

Last night, Steve and I had a date to watch October Baby.  I feel like a newlywed!  Last Saturday, we worshipped with Casting Crowns.  Two dates in two weeks is unheard of around these parts - and to be such fantastic ones!  It was awesome!  All of it.  Two dates with my wonderful and handsome husband, dinner out, great music, fabulous movie, no kids.  All of it great! 

Ahhh...

Now to the point of my post.

October Baby is a deep, thought-provoking movie that deals with difficult, complex issues in a compassionate and understanding way. 

Early in the movie, Hannah, a young college student, discovers that she is adopted.  Not only that, but she is the survivor of a failed abortion.  Hannah, rocked to her core, road-trips with her best friend (and some goofy spring-breakers) in order to seek answers about her past. 

At it's core, it is a pro-life movie, but there is virtually no pro-life rhetoric. I think they do a great job of presenting both sides of the abortion debate in a fair and dignified way. No one is painted as a heartless monster. Post-abortion women do not have to worry about being beaten up with shame and guilt, though the subject matter may bring emotions to the surface.

It is also a movie about adoption.  It touches on birth trauma and how it affects someone, even years later.  Deep insecurities are a theme.  The main character, Hannah, faces the real, painful identity struggles that adoption brings.  It reveals many of the weaknesses and fears of adoptive parents. In fact, the father is the poster child for what not to do to your adopted child, until the end when he confesses his deepest fears and reveals his motivations.  Finding peace and forgiveness in the midst of messy life is really the core theme of October Baby.

And also, DO NOT LEAVE THE THEATER UNTIL AFTER THE CREDITS!  After an incredible emotional roller coaster, you will be treated to a real-life front-row-seat to the amazing work of our gracious God, who is abounding in love and mercy.  

Go.see.this.movie.

PS.  For those of you who cannot believe that there is such a thing as an "abortion survivor", Gianna Jessen, who sings "Here on the Ocean Floor" in the movie is an abortion surviver.  I've met her in person.  She lived through a late term saline abortion back in the 80's.  She has a book.  Click Here for the Amazon Link.

Blessings to you,
Mamita

Friday, March 23, 2012

Baby Talk

Kids from hard places often fall into baby-talk.  They will babble, allowing their tongue to get in the way, raise their pitch, and soften the volume. This can be puzzling, annoying and unnerving to us moms.  

It is my non-expert opinion that this comes from a deep need to be nurtured with unconditional love.

What do you do with this behavior?

We have tried all kinds of things.  Some were somewhat successful.  Other ideas crashed and burned.

We've had two strategies that have seemed to meet the need and bring our child back to a place of maturity in the end.

When the baby talk starts, I hold her in my arms and talk to her like a little baby, calling her precious and beautiful and loved.  I gaze into her eyes, smile, and coo.  Sometimes, she will put things in her mouth or reach for dangerous things.  I will "No, no." her like a mom of a toddler.  Then, when she asks for big kid stuff, I will say, "Oh no.  We don't let babies have ..."  At that point , she is usually ready to be a big girl again.

The other strategy that has worked wonders lately is what I call "Wii MySims" language.  The Wii characteres only talk in gibberish that is only understood by inflection and cadence.  So, when I hear the baby-talk, I smile brightly, and begin speaking gibberish - high, light, silly baby-talk with lots of laughing.  Sometimes, I give her the "I don't understand?"  or the "What?  Me?" sound.  Sometimes, I give her a silly "You're in big trouble now," finger-wagging.  Inevitably, we both end up giggling.  It has become a playful way to give her what she needs and keep things light-hearted.  This is also one that Steve loves to use with her.    

What do you think?  Any other great ideas?

Blessings to you,
Mamita