Bahamas SeaBase Tall Ship Adventure - part 1

Well, the boys had a blast on their high seas adventure last week. As we've looked through pictures and talked about their week, these are some of the highlights/lowlights as I understand them. I may ask Daddy to guest blog later this week, so as not to totally mess up the story....

American Airlines lost the one checked bag they had for three days. It contained all of their bedding. For three nights, they slept on nasty old bedding that the captain found stored deep in the hold.

On Monday, Daddy slipped on the deck and conked his head pretty hard. Concussion?...maybe. He's okay now.

The tall ship was nothing like the picture on the Seabase website. But that was okay, because it was a catamaran, which means it has two side-by-side hulls. She's a beauty.

They had a captain, who owns the boat, and 18 Scouts and dads as the crew. The first day, (Saturday) they spent learning the ropes.


They set sail on Sunday. It was rainy all that day.



Better weather.

Hoisting the sail.

Exploring island caves.

Exploring an abandoned lighthouse.

Beaches.
Hopetown Lighthouse. This has a cool story.


Relaxation. Ahhhh.

Blessings to you,
Mamita

Happy Birthday to Me

It's my happy birthday! The boys are back from their adventure...pictures to come.



For your information, I am NOT 46 years old! Look carefully. You can plainly see that I am 46-1 years old. My daughter, Sugar, had to get creative with the candles. After TE's birthday, I purged our pitiful half-used birthday candle collection and never bought replacements. She had very little to work with.




And a big thank you to my best friend, who brought me the triple chocolate decadence cake. It was super rich and delicious.

Blessings to you,
Mamita

Spanglish and Other Language Issues

Cupcake has a very good mastery of English. Isn't that crazy? And wonderful?

In one year, she has really grasped the language structure. I am amazed...especially with her hearing loss. We still misunderstand much of what she is saying, but it is almost exclusively mispronounciation or speed-talking.

The other day, we noticed that she has started talking really fast. She speaks English with a Spanish cadence - especially when she is chewing us out. ;-)

A couple of months ago, we took her to the Special School District here in town to have her evaluated for speech therapy. She needs to get her speech as mature as possible as soon as possible, in case she ever loses her hearing all together. So after several tests, they discovered that she was really only missing three sounds that normal 5-year-olds should have - if they were born here and English was their native language. She is not eligible for benefits even though she has documented hearing loss and English is a second language. Go figure. Why do we pay taxes anyway?

We do not speak Spanish at our house. We tried to do the best we could when Cupcake was first home, but after several weeks, she knew the English words for all the Spanish words I know. So, we gradually phased out most of the Spanish, since I was butchering the language anyway. But somehow, some Spanish words have hung around. Most because they are easy and we still use them...bano (Arg! I can't do a tilda!), leche, huevos, and pijamas. But I have no idea why she still says trabajo for "work".

It's so cute when she says "use" because she pronounces it "ooze", as in "Mommy, can I ooze your hairbrush?"

"Umm...I'm not sure, Honey."

Cupcake does not want to hear Spanish AT ALL. Friends at church will try to talk with her. She turns her head and walks away. She hears people at Walmart talking, and frowns. When she first came home, we had translators for various doctors appointments. She would completely shut down and go to her own little world when they began to speak to her. I don't know if she grieves all she has lost or if she wants no reminder of the past. I hate for her to lose her ability to be bilingual, but I know it is too much for her right now, so we are letting the Spanish go until later. I have known other adopted kids that completely lost their native language, to the point of flunking basic high school classes, even though they came home as older kids (6-10 years old).

Cupcake has been working on pronouns for quite a while now. Several months ago, puppy was licking her face and she was having a fit. When I asked what the matter was, she answered...

"Him eat him own poop!"

I'll leave you with that.

Blessings to you,
Mamita

My friend, ManyBlessings put this out the other day. It is very troubling....


There is a horror slasher film being released July 24 (Orphan) about a family who adopts an older girl who “is not what she appears to be. Warnings about her go unheeded until it is too late…for everyone”. The film is being promoted now (http://orphan-movie.warnerbros.com) and the adoption message being sent is extremely negative. There is actually a line in the trailer that says “it must be hard to love an adopted child as much as your own”.

Without having seen the movie or read the script, it is hard to know if the entire movie is sending a ghastly adoption message, but the trailer certainly leads us to believe it is. This feeds the notion that older adoptees are very troubled and you should beware.... that's not an image any of us want the general public to have of our kids. It plays into people's deepest fears.

There is a growing group pursuing a boycott of the film, sending out emails and posting on online bulletin boards. I urge you to forward this email to others personally involved in adoption, help disseminate the boycott message and write to the producers and distributors expressing your displeasure with the message being sent.

The backers of this movie have deep pockets. It is being released by Dark Castle Entertainment with Warner Bros. set to distribute. Leonardo DiCaprio’s Appian Way, which developed the material, is also producing.


Here is a sample of the email I sent to Warner Bros....

I recently saw the trailer for the movie "Orphan". I was saddened to see the premise of this movie and the negative message it sends to people about adopting older children. This movie will plant seeds of fear into the hearts of a generation that might otherwise someday adopt these kids.

Your company info says that you are a leader in the entertainment industry. As a leader, you have a responsibility to those you lead. It would be socially irresponsible for Warner Bros. to distribute this film.

As the mother of an older adopted child, I am asking you to pull the plug on this movie. Stand up and be compassionate to the 143 million orphans of the world, instead of fostering fear and maintaining false and negative stereotypes.

Respectfully,
Jxxx X. Sxxxxx

PS. Please pass this along to the president and top brass of the company. Thank you.


Feel free to pass this along and post it on your blogs.

Blessings to you,
Mamita

Sailor Men

I just got back from the airport, where I dropped off my boys (all three of them). Today they are flying to the Bahamas for a tall ship adventure with our Boy Scout Troop. This is not a cruise. They will be the crew. They will have the opportunity to sail around the Bahamas, explore islands, snorkel, and swim. They will sleep out on the deck under the stars. Imagine how phenomenal the stars will be out in the ocean away from all lights.



Meanwhile, the girls and I will be holding down the fort this week.

Blessings to you,
Mamita

Happy Promise Day, Cupcake!

One year ago today, we walked over to the US Embassy in Guatemala City and pledged that you would be our daughter forever!!!



I can't believe it's been a year already!

Baby, you know in this family, we keep our promises. Forever means FOREVER, Cupcake.

Happy Promise Day! I'm so glad I'm your mom!

Blessings to you,
Mamita

Stay on Your Knees

If you have been praying with me, I'd like to add another little one to your list....



I have met some amazing people on this adoption journey. On this road, I've met some of the most tenacious, sincere, encouraging, persistent mama-bears. This baby's mom is one of them.








This sweet little girl is waiting for her embassy appointment in Guatemala City.

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And she now looks like this...



Three and a half years of a nightmare adoption is almost over, but they are still waiting for the US Embassy to give them an appointment date. Even these last steps on the US side have been fraught with setbacks. They were approved way back in January, and here it is the end of May. For a reference point, we were approved April 15 and had our appointment May 22 (...and we had setbacks).

They are expecting to hear something in the next few days --- of course, they've been waiting to hear something in the next few days for the last 5 months!

Please pray for this precious child to come home with no more delays.

Thank you in advance, and I will let you know whenever I hear something.

Blessings to you,
Mamita